Dating a divorced guy
this is separate, but I want to address it for your sake in general).If I were in your shoes, I would say something along the lines of: “Hey listen…You’re just seeing what he’s doing online and that information is freely available to the world.Your motivations for checking up on this are worth looking at, though, because it gives me the feeling that either something inside you feels like you don’t quite trust this guy or that you don’t trust the relationship you’re in to have trust as a quality (and so you’re always checking and testing because you don’t have that trust to begin with…I can tell you from personal experience that this was a skill I needed to learn.In my past, there have been times when even though the relationship was good, my insecurity would eat away at me.I would think things like, “Well, things seem good, but what if she’s doing something behind my back and playing me for a fool, etc.
How clear was his side of the agreement to being committed?
if that’s not what you want with me or in general, 100% in your mind, heart, body and soul… I don’t think it makes you a bad person, I wouldn’t hate you, I wouldn’t be mad at you.
Life is complicated and the heart wants what the heart wants. “When I saw this, it just doesn’t line up with someone who wants to be 100% exclusive. “Life is to short to spend our time, energy and youth on something that isn’t spectacular. I’m fine with either and if you don’t want that, we can part ways as friends – sincerely, no hard feelings.
Only you can decide if what you learn convinces you to keep participating in the relationship or not.
I said earlier that it’s worth looking into your own sense of trust in relationships since our internal relationship with trust can have a large impact in our relationships… You will never, ever know what the other person is doing at all times.